YOU KNOW YOU MIGHT GET HURT WHEN THE GUN IS COCKED, BUT YOU STILL STAND; BUT WHY?

Many a times we get informed, consciously and unconsciously, that some people are not good for us. We see it right in our very eyes that they are going to hurt us. We get signs by way of the manner they talk to/with us, the kind of tone they use in communicating; we get signs by their body language, the way they look at us, the way they relate with us; we get signs also by the way they treat us, neither answering of our calls and chats nor returning them; amongst many other very visible signs. Despite all these, we still allow ourselves fall prey of their ill attitudes towards us. We give them the most prized possession we own: our heart, knowing fully well that they are going to break it. We let ourselves become vulnerable because we desire and want to exhibit the most important quality of being human, the quality of love ❤.


You see, it is never your fault that you have affection for a person or some people and desire to show it. It is also never your fault that you give people chances to reciprocate the love gesture you profess. You are human after all, you were created to co-exist with other people of like minds and not too like minds, and this entails showing empathy when people are in difficult times, being selfless for the overall good of people around you (even if it means dissatisfying oneself), it entails loving and caring for others as you do yourself. No, it's not your fault to want to see the very best out of others and strive to achieve this by putting all efforts you possibly can.

What is your fault, however, is you are fully aware that danger is coming and you choose to wait for it. The danger of a broken heart 💔 and a deserted mind. Why allow people take you for granted? Why allow others pay you evil for good? Why give in all your best but get very little or nothing in return? Why allow others toy with your most prized asset, your heart?

My friend, you see, we were not formed in this world to exist alone, we are not in existence here to be overly sufficient for ourselves. We need people in our lives as they need us in theirs to assist in achieving one task or the other, amongst others, whether big or small, like it is said, "No one man is an island." We crave good human relationships (of whichever form it is) and strive to make it happen by way of giving our time, money, attention, and other valuables of ours.

Be that as it may, we should never carry out that 'good person' attitude at our own detriment. It's okay if someone is in pain and you try to give them that 'Everything gonna be all right' feeling, but what if they care less? It's okay to see someone in need and offer assistance by giving them your time, money and attention, but what if they do not appreciate your kind gesture? It's equally okay to want to have a good relationship with a person and so you call and send chats and text messages to know how they are fairing, but what if they rarely pick your calls or respond to chats? What if they scarcely even check to know how you're doing in return?

There's something called Self-Respect. It's the quality of knowing your worth. It's the quality of knowing that no one person has the right to toss you around. It's also the quality of understanding the fact that not every one will treat you the best way you would treat them. With this knowledge you guide yourself against those unscrupulous elements who are bent on giving you nothing but pain, misery, devaluation and disrespect. With that knowledge you get to know when to call it quits on people who aren't worth your valuables: affection, time, money and attention. When you respect yourself, you only associate with those who are going to upgrade you from the current level you're in or at least maintain your current standard.

Why still stand when the gun is cocked and ready to fire? No one can treat you badly without your consent. You give them permission to 'do you anyhow' when you remain after knowing that their motive towards you is not good and should not be accepted. We must never tie our happy and joy to any one person or group of people.